For those wondering why recent posts from Steve have been about boy girl relationships, Steve would like to set things straight.
This all boils down to a very basic principle - essentially, Steve believes that how a guy approaches the woo-ing of a girl shows whether he has the innate ability to succeed. While what Steve believes may not be wholly accurate, as in not every player would end up as the next Bill Gates or Warren Buffett for that matter, the guy who is able to get a girl would more likely succeed than the one who doesn't. Let Steve explain.
First Steve would like to define the subject matter of getting a girl. The entire objective is just being able to get a girl for whatever purposes the guy might have - be it for marriage, a fling or just to test out his skills.
Next, we have to eliminate those who are not in the game altogether, for one reason or another. It could be because the guy wants to lead a secular life or because he thinks that he has better things to concentrate on. We have to include people who don't approve of marriage but yet are in the game for physical and emotional pleasure.
At the end of the day, it does not matter how long or how much resources are devoted to getting a girl - it is getting her that matters. The brutal game of love is almost identical to the real world. There will always be winners and there will always be losers. At the end of the day, it is the survival of the fittest - the best will always get the best and the worst will end up with nothing.
There are of course a few categories of successful men in this matter. The first would be the naturals - these people have it all. They might be handsome, talented, tall, rich or just smooth talkers. In the real world, they are the people who are supremely talented who don't have to move a muscle to do well in their area of work.
The next are those who are not naturals but realise that they are horribly deficient in this area. As such, they employ ways to brush on their skills to succeed in this cut throat arena. Even in the real corporate world, we can learn skills that enable us to do well in our field of work. Similarly, learning the tricks of the trade in the game of love that enables us to triumph can easily be compared to people who work insanely hard to where they are today. It is all about knowing your own limitations and working on them to make them your strengths. If one knows his limitations and does nothing to work on them, he would not be able to break out of his social status.
Skills like adapting to the whims and fancies of different types of girls reflect the ability of a guy to adapt to different situations in the corporate world. There is no way that a negotiation technique can be applied to different customers. It is all about knowing your enemy, knowing your objective and adapting to achieve your objective. The stubborn ones who are unable to get a girl because they refuse to change reflects a trait in a person - that he is very stiff and that he probably should not be in front line operations that requires adaptations.
A guy who puts his ego and "face" above all is unlikely to get a girl, simply because he is afraid of failure. Would you as an employer want to hire someone like this to run your company? This person is unable to get out of his comfort zone and take on risks. There is an proportionate relation between risks and returns - the higher the risks, the higher the returns. As such, employing this person to run your company would mean meagre returns on the capital invested.
Perseverance is important in wooing a girl. If a guy keeps giving up half way when he is chasing a girl, it says a lot about his character. When the going gets tough, this same guy would not have the stomach and fight to go through the rough parts. If he keeps giving up when the going gets tough, how is he going to succeed in life?
It is easy to simply conclude that girls go for successful guys. Steve is guilty of it and he puts his hands up to admit that. But what is inherent is these traits that made him successful are often the very same traits that he employs when he chases after a girl.
The last skill that Steve would like to point out is of course knowing when to strike. A guy who dithers here and there when the point of reckoning comes often fails to land his choice target. How then would he be able to seize opportunities that come his way? If he keeps letting opportunities slip, there is very little chance he will move up in the world.
The last kind of people of course, are those who just wait until the time when they realise that they are still not getting their targets and just order a bride, get match- made or simply just exit the game altogether. These are the people best suited for back office jobs where work is routine and that the drive that pushes us to test our limits is missing.
All in all, it is not that difficult to know how far a person will go just from his attitude towards getting a girl. Should Steve be an employer in future, the one question he will ask the male interviewees would be - what is your attitude towards getting a girl? Of course, some of us are late bloomers. Some realise later in life that it is time to take care of our short comings. Therefore, while this test might not be foolproof, it does weed out people that are destined to stay in the social circle that they are born in.